I am posting this journal as a general notice, but also because of a recent situation that has occurred.
I must stress this: "Being a Contact on an Instant messenger does not mean I have to respond instantly"
- I Can't Handle talking to people for very long (Overall, not individually)
- I get messages all the time through my art sites
- It takes me a large amount of time to respond to think of how to respond to people
- It is very taxing for me
- I Can't talk to everyone every single day
- If I feel uncomfortable on any messaging site, I will act upon that feeling and remove the contact, as doing nothing will only continue making me feel uncomfortable
If I have ever removed you from my contacts from an instant messenger, it is most likely because you have made me feel pressured to constantly contact you. I consider this type of situation very unhealthy for me. It makes me feel like I don't want to be online because of a person, the solution is to no longer have that person an instant messaging contact. I feel that a non-instant messenger like FA's notes would be healthier means of contact with the person. Just because I'm online, doesn't mean I'm there. Doesn't mean I'm Not busy. Doesn't mean I can talk to you. Doesn't mean I want to talk right now. I have my own pace, I have my own daily limit, and I have my own time. I Will answer Skype Messages and FA messages AT THE SAME PACE no matter what. My Pace. (Anywhere between 2 minutes and a week.)
Now listen, I have added numerous people to my instant messengers a number of times. I don't add them because I always want to chat, I add them to enjoy your presence. because at some point, I enjoyed your presence and would like to continue to be in your presence again in the future. I have a lot of people who I DO continue to chat with from time to time and talk about silly, fun, or serious things. It is like friends or Acquaintances passing by in the mall, stopping to chat it up. Maybe make some more chat plans later, but whatever. Catch you the next time!
Not everyone works out that way. It becomes an issue when that presence changes from friendly interaction to an overbearing burden. It is no longer "Friends who chat it up in the mall" but "This person who is standing outside of my door every day asking to come in without any notice because we talked at the mall." Intrusive. Uncomfortable. Frightening. It has happened quite a few times. It's sad, but there are some people who's presence isn't something I can handle or don't feel comfortable around. If you want someone to talk to every day, DO NOT add me. If you want someone to complain about sad things DO NOT add me. If you think that being added onto an instant messenger makes you my friend DO NOT add me. If you think I'm going to respond to every message DO NOT ADD ME. If you think writing through an instant messenger will change the communication than if through FA/DA notes, DO NOT add me. If you are trying to add me on an instant messenger in hopes of getting something out of it, DON'T. STOP. DON'T EVEN ASK.
I do enjoy being talked to, though. Don't get the wrong idea. I like getting comments. I like getting notes. I like being able to say Hi from time to time. I do very much like interacting with people, but at my own pace. It is very important to me to be able to communicate at my own pace. Writing through FA or DA's notes system works just as fine if you really want to talk to me. I'll respond the same amount of time as I would on an instant messenger. The medium of communication does not change how I talk to someone. PS: Do not use this as an excuse to ask my for my skype, facebook, discord, whatever.
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